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Dennis Berry's avatar

We behave the way we do because we were programmed... by our parents, teachers... and by ourselves too.

If we want to change, we need NEW programming.

It starts by creating new neural pathways in our brain... and consistently adding to them.

The same way we programmed ourselves to brush our teeth over and over again for years.

We can program ourselves to make $10M... by training ourselves over and over again for years.

But, nobody wants to hear that... they want it NOW.

But, it doesn't work that way.

And, so we feel like failures or "stuck."

When all you have to do is start building... 🧠

Juan Gonzalez's avatar

Yes! This is such a good read.

Reading the first few lines brought to my mind the talk from Kelly McGonigal about shifting our approach to stress.

It's such a simple mindset shift but a pretty difficult to apply one.

Dennis Berry's avatar

Nice. Our relationhip with stress ultimately determines our level of success (or lack of)

Juan Gonzalez's avatar

Yeah, deff agree with stress. It can break us or help us level up.

Melanie Goodman's avatar

Yes — and that distinction between stress itself and the body’s response to it is often overlooked, especially in high-performance industries.

In my work with executives, I’ve seen how nervous system dysregulation shows up as indecision, burnout, or withdrawal — and it’s often mistaken for mindset or motivation issues.

The WHO reported this year that work-related stress now accounts for over 50% of productivity loss in knowledge-based roles, largely due to chronic, unmanaged physiological load.

How do you approach regulating your system day to day — routine, tools, or something else?

Dennis Berry's avatar

Love it. Yes it’s not a mindset issue. High level leaders have a strong mindset… that’s how they became leaders.

I love seeing on LinkedIn “mindset coach for CEOs”

REAL CEOs have rock solid minds.

It’s usually a misalignment issue… or as you said, disregulation.

For me… crush the morning… up early, tons of water, exercise, swim, breathe… everything else comes after that. 🔥

Sharyph's avatar

This is a fantastic mindset shift.

I love the idea that it’s not a failure of willpower, but a failure of the body's primitive defense mechanism.

So many high performers blame themselves or their discipline when the root problem is purely biological.

Dan Stecken's avatar

This hit me right in the feels as a leader who is all gas, “REAL problem, which was my thinking.”

Dennis Berry's avatar

Yes… ALL of us. Manage your thinking, master your world. 🌎🔥💪🏼

Dennis Berry's avatar

Yes. We never return to baseline anymore. We’re in a constant state of stress and cortisol overload. Literally killing ourselves with stress 😢

James Barringer's avatar

This is it….. 👏🏻’If we can learn to let go of the outcomes(expectations) and move from that space, life gets MUCH easier’.

Dennis Hedenskog's avatar

Your capacity for Legacy Leadership is not defined by how much stress you can endure, but by how skillfully you can manage your internal environment. - This message is so valuable. Our capacity is maleable, and inner work helps us get better at most outer endeavors.

Petar Dimov's avatar

Powerful perspective Dennis. Rewiring at the biological level, not just mindset, feels like the real unlock for sustainable high performance

Chris Tottman's avatar

Incredible article. Such a powerful read. Thanks Dennis ✨